How to Become a Great Listener Today

8 Things Great Listeners do Differently

Most of us are convinced that we are reasonably good listeners. However, when asked, many partners are unable to give an coherent summary of what their partner just said without missing half of the story.

How to Become a Great Listener Today

That’s because many of us are not even consciously aware that we have a tendency to plan what we are going to say next without actually listening to what is being said.

The Kiss of Death for Your Relationship

The #1 Predictor of a Divorce

If you’re rolling your eyes at your partner, and you do that regularly, we already know you’re going to divorce. What?!?

Dr. John Gottman and University of California, Berkeley psychologist Robert Levenson found that this single behavior is so powerful that they can use it—along with other negative behaviors such as repetitive criticism, sarcasm, and stonewalling—to predict divorce with 93% accuracy.

The Trust Formula Revealed

The Quickest Way to Rebuild Trust

Trust is like love. Both parties have to feel it before it really exists. While trusting and being trustworthy are related, they are not the same thing.

Trust Formula Revealed Feel Good Rituals

 In this post you’re going to discover the Trust Formula and the most important elements of trustworthiness. It will show you which areas you should focus on in order to fix shaken trust or to avoid breaking it in the first place. 

Why You Should Avoid Unsolicited Advice

Insanely Simple Solution to Something Everyone Hates

I was a really bad listener for a very long time, and truth be told, so was my wife. We sucked at just listening. We often became irritated, or even angry at each other before we got a chance to get to the point.

Avoid Unsolicited Advice

Looking back, I realize there was a simple, yet not immediately obvious, reason.

How to Instantly Lower Your Spouse’s Defenses

Little Known Tip to Start a Difficult Conversation

You might remember the Lieutenant Columbo TV series, with Columbo played by Peter Falk? For the uninitiated, Lt. Columbo was that trenchcoat-wearing, cigar-smoking television detective of the Los Angeles Police Homicide Bureau. The show ran off and on from 1971 to 2003.

How to Make Your Spouse Listen to You

Columbo was an exceptionally successful detective. He used his humble ways and ingenuous demeanor to put people at ease, allowing them to open up and tell him things they otherwise wouldn’t. Here’s how this relates to your conversations with your spouse.

9 Marriage Myths That Will Make You Permanently Unhappy

False Expectations That Can Damage Any Relationship

You’d probably laugh and call me crazy if I told you I’m expecting to see the sunset in the east. You and I both know this won’t happen.

Marriage Myths Unrealistic Expectations

You may find this example to be silly, and yet I see many couples living in misery because in their relationship they are expecting to see the sunset while looking to the east.

By doing so, they are setting themselves up for perpetual disappointment and frustration. This post covers the 9 most damaging expectations that can break up any relationship and keep you miserable and unhappy for a very long time.

How to Avoid Waking Up Next to a Stranger

The Easy Way to Keep Up with Your Spouse’s Life

Imagine you meet a friend from your youth whom you’ve lost touch with. It’s been years since you saw each other. Sure, it’s a nice surprise and you’re both pleased to meet.

How to Avoid Being Married to a Stranger

But it feels a bit awkward, after so much time. It’s not the same anymore. There’s little to say aside from the usual “Do you have any kids?” or “Where do you work?”

The same thing happens to so many married couples. One day, they wake up and realize that the person lying next to them is a complete stranger.

What happened?

How to Make Up When Your Spouse is Still Upset

How to Get Things Back Without Making Them Worse

Have you ever tried to apologize, but ended up in a much bigger fight? You wanted to say you were sorry, but then you said something that really set your partner off?

How to apologize to your spouse

Admitting when you’re wrong is hard. Knowing when, and especially how, to apologize earns you appreciation and respect. On the other hand, doing it wrong consistently makes you look like a jerk. It builds resentment, and soon, your partner will probably start behaving the same way. Therefore, this post is not about preventing you from messing things up, but what you can do about it afterwards.

How to Negotiate With Your Spouse For a Win-Win

Conflict Resolution that Connects Instead of Dividing

It’s often said that marriage is about sacrifice and compromise. That doesn’t sound so great, does it? The reality is, though, that in much of your marriage, you will be in constant agreement to do something, one way or another, with more than a large gray area in between.

How to Negotiate With Your Spouse for a Win-Win

This can be anything from picking where to go out for dinner, to where you will go on vacation this year, and similar things. Or it can mean more serious decisions, like moving across the country because your partner got a promotion, and now you have to leave your friends and family behind. Agreeing to do something, when done properly, can enhance a feeling of connection and harmony, while the opposite leads to frustration, anger, depression, and all sorts of really toxic behaviors.