Imagine the navigation system you have in your car or on your phone. If you put in an exact address, the device will lead you exactly where you want to go.
If you get lost or get off track, the system will recalculate and prepare a new route for you. So, while the goal or the target remains the same, because the conditions have changed, the plan has changed as well.
Let’s now imagine, while still using the same navigation device, you do not know where you want to go. Well, as we all know, even the best navigation device will not be able to help you.
My question is, “What did you put in your relationship’s navigation device? Do you even HAVE a desired destination?”
Most people have never been asked to contemplate the question “What do you hope to achieve in your life, and what kind of person do you want to be?”
We are used to thinking hard and planning our education, career, and perhaps buying our first home. Heck, we are able to spend countless hours on planning our next summer vacation! But I have met very few people in my life who have a plan for their life.
So, my wife recently told me I am husband version 4.0 her. She feels like she has a new husband. Wow!
I asked her who were the other three? This is what she said.
One of the main reasons that people don’t get what they want is because they don’t actually figure out what it is.
This sounds obvious, and it is. Still, not many people do it, including myself until a couple of years ago.
I started journaling five years ago. It became almost a ritual in its own right, because it changed my life in so many positive ways.
In my previous article I outlined numerous benefits of keeping a journal. This post is about a specific process and writing prompts that I use to lead my thoughts and keep things tidy and structured.
Most people think that if you do a poor job, you get poor results. You do a good job, you get good results. If you do an excellent job, well, then you get excellent results.
To me, this is plain wrong. This is not how the world spins, though I wish it did.
It’s almost the same kind of mistake as having a baby to repair a broken relationship. Many people wrongly believe their intimate relationship is supposed to heal their troubles, solve their personal problems, and bring purpose back to their lives.
In other words, they expect their partner to fill the gaps in their life. They even marry for that reason. What a terrible mistake!