Even the most die-hard lovers eventually discover that their loved one is not “perfect” after all. For some, this represents major frustration.
For others, this is a reason to start contemplating a way out. Here’s the thing. You can look for the perfect person your whole life, but this will only make you permanently unhappy.
A Never-ending Search
After the courtship period is over and people realize their partner is not whom they thought they were, they sometimes feel betrayed and confused.
The darker side of their mate shows up.
Many couples have a hard time grasping the fact that they live with another person. So they start “changing” that person to fit their idealized image of the perfect partner. As they realize this doesn’t work (it never does), they figure it’s just bad luck.
They think they married the wrong person.
So they move on, believing things will be completely different with someone else. But, somehow, they end up in a relationship with exactly the same kind of a person they left or divorced only a short time ago.
All the same relationship challenges occur, and the only thing that has changed is the person they are with. Many people spend a good portion of their lives moving from one relationship to another, looking for someone who’s finally going to match the image of a “perfect mate” in their head.
That doesn’t sound like a good plan to me.
That being said, I’m not implying you should marry just anyone on the street and then make the best of it.
How to Resist the Grass Is Greener Elsewhere Myth
Successful couples have learned to love each other’s strengths, but they have also learned to love the weaknesses, as well.
They begin solving problems by asking themselves, “What can I do to change things for the better?” Pay attention to the tiny one-letter word in the question. That’s the key.
Instead of trying to change your partner to fit the mold, take the lead and change first. The beauty is, your partner will follow. It might not happen immediately, but they will.
They always do.
Otherwise, you could give up too soon on something that could be really special.
So, Are You With the Perfect Partner?
Because no such partner exists.
But you probably already have a perfect partner for YOU. It’s just that they may not have developed their full potential yet.
And this is where you come in. The best way to help your spouse develop their potential is to show them by example and not words alone.